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  America's Most Wanted seeks fugitive hiding in JW community

  by frozen one in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  from the tv show "america's most wanted" on saturday, sept 26: michael calhoun - 39 y/o white male, 6', 210 lbs - convicted of rape and the attempted murder of an elderly woman.

  wanted for failing to register as a violent sexual predator in ashtabula county, ohio.

  he has psoriasis, is believed to be dealing drugs, and could be hiding out in a jehovah's witness community (amw did not elaborate as to why he could be hiding amongst witnesses).

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  jehovahsheep,

  they can be allowed to return once they've demonstrated their repentence by completely confessing their wrongdoing to "Ceasar" and dutifully accepting whatever punishment is meted out. And since they are repentant they would also want to make sure that members of any congregation they associate with are made aware clearly and openly about what kind of wrongdoing they have committed. And of course they would never ever be given any kind of responsibility in the congregation ever. Nor would they be allowed to engage in the field ministry without at least one elder accompanying them the whole time. In fact, it would be best if their field service was limited to writing letters or possibly phone witnessing.

  I don't think any of these requirements are excessive or restrictive. Actually the Watchtower could have avoided many problems years ago by simply implementing this kind of policy. Why they didn't, and still don't is a mystery...

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  America's Most Wanted seeks fugitive hiding in JW community

  by frozen one in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  from the tv show "america's most wanted" on saturday, sept 26: michael calhoun - 39 y/o white male, 6', 210 lbs - convicted of rape and the attempted murder of an elderly woman.

  wanted for failing to register as a violent sexual predator in ashtabula county, ohio.

  he has psoriasis, is believed to be dealing drugs, and could be hiding out in a jehovah's witness community (amw did not elaborate as to why he could be hiding amongst witnesses).

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  Angel Eyes,

  My father was an elder and Presiding Overseer and for years "got away" with molesting his daughter. Even after confessing, he was df'd for less than 6 months and is an active JW to this day.

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  DO JWS REALLY WAIT TIL MARRIAGE???

  by sweet in

  1. watchtower
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  do jws really wait til marriage to have sex?.

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  Waited. I think its safe to say ours was the most platonic courtship ever. :(

  What a messed-up way to live.

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  Guys, Which Shaving cream do you use for a very close shave?

  by asilentone in

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  Depends on what exactly I'm shaving...

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  CJJW July 2010 in Rochester, MN...anyone going?

  by MNyea in

  1. jw
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  hey, i was wondering if anyone else is going to the cjjw in rochester, mn next year.

  i want to stay in the same place as other jw, but not sure where everyones going?!

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  You will probably get better responses to your post if you refrain from using obtuse acronyms... what is a CJJW??

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  ex wants to be free to remarry - ugh

  by No Apologies in

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  ok, i'm sure i am not the first one to be in this predicament but it sure is a headache, my jw ex called a few days ago, apparently she has met someone (they're not dating of course!

  ) and she wants to me to hand over the golden ticket.

  she wants confirmation either in writing or verbally to a third party, that she is "scripturally free" to remarry.. i have managed for years now to avoid any judicial action and my jw family members still associate with me, but that all could come to a screeching halt if i give her what she wants.. the only bright side is she totally robbed me on the divorce; if she gets married i am at least off the hook for "spousal maintenance", that would mean potentially thousands of dollars in my pocket.... .

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  I'm paying spousal maintenance because she put on a good sob story, and because my lawyer was amazingly imcompetent. Thanks to her, I now have a foreclosure on my credit history. But I digress...

  startingover, I think different members of my JW family will react differently, my parents will probably keep up some kind of contact, they have both been DF'd and I never completely stopped having contact with them. I have one sister who for some reason is very strict when it comes to DFd family members. I am already on thin ice as it is.

  Big tex, you are hard-core, lol. hey if I was guaranteed to get out of spousal maintenance, I would have hard time wanting anything else.

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  Anthem for Leaving the WTS

  by cantleave in

  1. social
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  for me snow patrol's "chasing cars" is becoming something of an anthem for me whilst i am severing myself from the jw's / wts.

  if you are unfamiliar withthe lyrics follow this link.

  http://www.nme.com/awards/video/id/e1w5lfw-vuy/search/patrol.

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  Bon Jovi, It's my Life.

  It's now or never, I ain't gonna live forever...

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  ex wants to be free to remarry - ugh

  by No Apologies in

  1. jw
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  ok, i'm sure i am not the first one to be in this predicament but it sure is a headache, my jw ex called a few days ago, apparently she has met someone (they're not dating of course!

  ) and she wants to me to hand over the golden ticket.

  she wants confirmation either in writing or verbally to a third party, that she is "scripturally free" to remarry.. i have managed for years now to avoid any judicial action and my jw family members still associate with me, but that all could come to a screeching halt if i give her what she wants.. the only bright side is she totally robbed me on the divorce; if she gets married i am at least off the hook for "spousal maintenance", that would mean potentially thousands of dollars in my pocket.... .

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  Wow thanks for all the responses. As someone pointed out, it is quite a quandary. But to address some of the suggestions, there is absolutely zero chance of her engaging in any kind of "loose conduct" with this guy or anyone, of that I am sure. I am actually surprised she admits that she has been talking regularly on the phone with this guy. She will never do anything that might be considered "improper" by JW standards. She's already afraid she might be "marked" - oh noes!!!

  Part of the problem is that I might have (hypothetically, of course) already told her she is free to remarry.

  I also agree that its rediculous that she expects me to play by the JW rules. I think its absurd that she feels constrained by their control tactics. I really would like to stand my ground, tell her the JW rules are her problem not mine. The only problem with that is I am too nice a guy, I really have no desire to stop her from trying to be happy. And then the money of course...

  For now, I think I am going to hold firm, she has to somehow meet me halfway. She hasn't even met the guy yet! There is no reason for me to be the one putting everything at risk.

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  ex wants to be free to remarry - ugh

  by No Apologies in

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  ok, i'm sure i am not the first one to be in this predicament but it sure is a headache, my jw ex called a few days ago, apparently she has met someone (they're not dating of course!

  ) and she wants to me to hand over the golden ticket.

  she wants confirmation either in writing or verbally to a third party, that she is "scripturally free" to remarry.. i have managed for years now to avoid any judicial action and my jw family members still associate with me, but that all could come to a screeching halt if i give her what she wants.. the only bright side is she totally robbed me on the divorce; if she gets married i am at least off the hook for "spousal maintenance", that would mean potentially thousands of dollars in my pocket.... .

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  Ok, I'm sure I am not the first one to be in this predicament but it sure is a headache, my JW ex called a few days ago, apparently she has met someone (they're not dating of course!) and she wants to me to hand over the golden ticket. She wants confirmation either in writing or verbally to a third party, that she is "scripturally free" to remarry.

  I have managed for years now to avoid any Judicial action and my JW family members still associate with me, but that all could come to a screeching halt if I give her what she wants.

  The only bright side is she totally robbed me on the divorce; if she gets married I am at least off the hook for "spousal maintenance", that would mean potentially thousands of dollars in my pocket...

  What to do what to do...

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  Ministerial servant mentions more "empty nester" JW couples getting divorced

  by truthseeker in

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  i was talking to a ministerial servant today, and the subject of marriage came up.

  he said something very interesting, that recently many of the friends he grew up with in the truth (he is in his 30s) are on their second or third marriage.. he also talked about a more recent phenomenon that more empty nester jws (couples whose kids have left home), are deciding they don't want to stay together and are getting divorced.. we're talking about couples who have been married 20, 25, 30 or more years suddenly deciding to call it quits and it's not necessarily that they are looking for someone else; they simply want out of the marriage.. divorce does seem to be on the increase in congregations, especially the last one i attended.. it reminds me of a scripture in malachi we would sometimes hear about "not divorcing the wife of your youth".

  why do you think divorce and separation are on the rise among long time married jws?.

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  Snoozy,

  What did this guy do that is so terrible??? He was unhappy, he got a divorce. Its not his fault his first wife got cancer. Why are you blaming him???

  I'm sorry but I was married for 20 years and I was miserable most of the time. The only reason I stayed is because I was a JW and I knew divorce was "bad". Then one day I realized what a bunch of bs it was, and what an idiot I had been for wasting the best part of my life in an unhappy marriage.

  News flash: divorce is not a sin, staying in an unhappy marriage is not a virtue. Life is not a rehearsal, this it it.

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